Re: labels
Glad to see your reaction is not based on my being happy or n=t.
Sorry for all the typos .Sent from my iPhone
These labels of love , girlfriend, etc &=bsp; are yours to do as you please but i would appreciate it if you l=ave me out of your need to pigeion hole, realtionships into a pedestrian bo=. I will pay for your g4 school. as i refuse to be a= excuse for you not doing well. I promise my feelings wil=not be hurt if you tell me you are happy, as it seeems consiatntly the case=with your feelings. I told you early on , that you would end up=here, I am sorry, I will try to find you an interesing boy, but i hav= little hope. .your selfishness , jealously, small mindedmes, m=kes it difficult .
On Sat, Apr 21, 2012 at 4:03 AM, N=dia <[redacted] wrote:
Really? I asked if you were in love, you thought that was=inappropriate and didn't answer... I learned you have a girl in your life.&=bsp;l don't want to stand in the way of your happiness so removing m=self from the flying situation seemed like the right thing to do, despite t=e fact it combines two things I love most. I don't know what you want a=d whether you are happy or not. Are you?
1 if I had programmed your=values you would be far ahead of where you are. In fact I failed to reprogr=m them . 2 it was not passive aggressive it was only aggressive , 3 your fo=us and understanding of consequences has not changed ,and I only want good t=ings for you and Believe you would be better in another city.i have been co=sistent on that fact but like the vast majority of things , i believe=i fully expect you will ignore my best advice .. 4 I have no intenti=n of sharing your excretions.
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On Apr 21, 2012, at 1:09 PM, Nadia ████████████████████████████████████████ wrote:
Well, that was unnecessarily harsh..
- It is a fact that the time I spent with you will=make my future dating difficult, but that is mostly a result of you exposing me to your unusual lifestyle and reprogramming all my values, priorities and sense of right and wrong, when you started dating me as a teenager. I was a willing participant, so don't think I am blaming you for it or using it as a= excuse. I'm just stating a fact.
Because of you I ha=e come to not only tolerate, but genuinely prefer and seek a lifestyle that includes other girls and an 'open•=804 relationship... If you call that selfish, jealous or small-minded, I don't know what=to say. It's true this may be difficult to find but it is for the opposite r=asons than those you listed.
- Love is a now a label? You had no problem Q=98labeling' your relationships since I met you. Your sudden artificial refusal to have an adu=t conversation and use common English words because you don't want to Q=80•put labels' on things, supports your stubbornness more than your open-mi=ded and unconventional views about relationships.
Why would you make a passive-aggressive comment lik= "Glad to s=e your reaction is not based on my being happy or not", and then refuse to answer the q=estion. I have no idea if you are happy. I want you to be. But judging by your random spurts of anger and obsessive focus on the negative detail while overlooking=the vast positive (in people, work, design and everyday life), I don't e=en dare to venture a guess. I really hope you ARE happy and I hope it lasts. I would also hope that when you are d=ne with this one, you don't blame it on the poor girl's esel=ishness' and 'jealousy' but maybe take a closer look in the mirror. I promise that if you don'= address your negativity and aggressive mood swings, you are going to have a very har= time, and so is she. When that happens, I won't say I told you so, l=ke you do. I just hope you take something from it. I wish you well.
Par=on my honesty.
PS: I hope you realize our communications are confi=ential and any information I share with you is not to be disclosed to any person, w=th or without a label.