Misyar - Marriage??
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No rights, no obligations - just sex and companionship
Misyar or 'confidential' marriages =bound in the region By Muna Ahmed Published Monday, August 23, =010
The wife is not added to the citizenship document in misyar marriage. (FILE= More than 20,000 marriages in the UAE are "misyar marriages", acc=rding to a judge. He also pointed out that the men and women who choose su=h confidential marriages, are almost exclusively Arabs.
A misyar marriage is legal in the UAE. It is a contract under which the husband and wife give up several rights by their =wn free will, such as living together, equal division of nights between wi=es, the wife's rights to housing, and maintenance money, and husband&St=9;s right of homekeeping and access etc .
The couple continue to live separately from each other, as before their mar=iage, but get together regularly, often for sexual relations in a permissi=le and halal manner.
Although allowed in some Muslim countries, misyar is not popular with many =ecause women lose nearly all their rights in a confidential marriage. A la=ge number of such marriages end up in divorce.
A misyar marriage is one under which a couple get officially married in cou=ts, but later on, the man does not complete the processes of the marriage.=br> He doesn't add the wife into the Citizenship Document, which is a must =o that the wife gets her full official rights, sources said.
Widad Naser Lootah from the Community Development Authority in Dubai, said that misyar marriage is a legal marri=ge in the country.
"In this, they get married officially and have marriage certificate fr=m the courts. They avoid having children, but if this happens, the childre= will be given their father's name and will be issued passports. The m=n is not obliged to spend on the wife and the children. He is exempted fro= paying for anything for them. However, he can pay from his own will. &quo=;
She added: "Women generally accept to get into this kind of marriage w=en they reach 35 years of age and above and need male companionship.
"These women don't want to be alone. They seek male companionship,=and thus accept to get married instead of being alone. In many cases, thes= women are divorced or widows," she said.
She added that almost all men who seek this type of marriages are getting m=rried for the second time. "In these cases, the man normally hides hi= misyar marriage from his first wife and children. Thus, he
doesn't spend the night with the sec=nd wife. He only visits her during the day after work and spends some time=with her without his first wife's knowledge. "
She added that the girl's family also doesn't mind such marriages a= they want their daughter to have someone in their lives.
"When I was a marriage counselor in Dubai Courts, I received many wome= who wanted to get into such marriages. I personally don't encourage s=ch marriages, but for some women, it is the best solution for their loneli=ess. For example, a widow came to me once and needed help for a misyar mar=iage.
"Her children had gone abroad for higher education, and they were to s=end many years away from home. She was all alone, and got a misyar marriag= proposal. She accepted it, and her uncle encouraged her to get married. N=w she is living happily with her husband. This marriage was the perfect so=ution for both of them as they don't want to have children. All they want is to have each other's companionship, &q=ot;she said.