swinging is the answer. To them, cheating is not an issue, unfaithfulness is obsolescent, and adultery is merely a concept that deprived former Air Force Lieutenant Kelly Flinn of her opportunity to drop a nuclear bomb.
The Lifestyles Convention provides a nurturing environment for these couples the same way a convention of crossword-puzzle enthusiasts or barbed-wire collectors would provide for those folks. Yet, in the case of swingers, one is left with a puzzle. Is impersonal intimacy an oxymoron? | ask that question of psychologist Stella Resnick, sex therapist and author of 7he Pleasure Zone. Her reply:
“We can’ t put a value judgment on this. These are all consenting adults. It doesn’ t really matter that it’ s rather impersonal because they are in long-term relationships, so they’ re getting their intimacy needs met, but not necessarily their needs for excitement in sex, and this is certainly a way to do it. Often they are sexually identified in the sense that they’ re sexual people, they have strong desires, they’ re not necessarily into politics or other causes, but this is a good cause—being in the body, being healthy—and it’ s a way of relaxing and enjoying their bodies. Whatever turns you on, as long as you’ re not doing any damage to
anybody else and you’ re taking care of yourself, fine, enjoy.”
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